How to get out of a works' do? - Page 3

xiao jiao zi · 16th February 2010, 09:55 AM

I used to not go to works things as I didn't want to socialize with people I spent the entire week with. But I've realised that work dos are really important so I think of it as part of work. We don't always want to go to work and there are aspects of work that we don't like, however we still have to turn up.

The work do is a part of work, albeit an unpaid overtime part of work. If you don't like the food, just eat a sandwich beforehand so you don't starve and don't eat anything. Then when you go for drinks, just drink tapwater.

You may enjoy it?

Percy · 16th February 2010, 12:45 PM

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1. I don't like going to chinese restaurants with gwei lo. I have done this before and it was traumatic. We ended up eating sweet and sour chicken, special fried rice and other takeaway classics. I don't want to go to my favourite restaurant and eat takeaway food.

I'm sorry to say this, but I think you should have fought your corner. How the hell do you end up going to a chinese restaurant, and then get railroaded into eating something you don't want to eat?? - especially when you're in a CHINESE restaurant - ie, its your frickin domain!

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2. I don't want to go clubbing with my colleagues afterwards. I am not very good with alcohol (and I know they will pressure me into drinking) and I don't want to drink with colleagues as it is still a work situation after-all.

You don't have to go clubbing - and if you turned up at the dinner, at least you made the effort to join in.

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3. It's a leaving do for the office manager. I don't like her and feel two-faced about going.

Just show a bit of magnanimity. Don't burn your bridges.
Even though you don't like her, you can be civil and wish her well with whatever she's moving onto.

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I don't know how to get out of this works' do now that they changed the venue based upon my suggestion. I want to find a plausible excuse that allows me to withdraw without being awkward.

As people have already said, you shouldn't have suggested an alternative, if what you wanted to do was to get out of it.
Now that you have, and they've changed to take your suggestion into account, you should go.

16th February 2010, 09:55 AM	#31
xiao jiao zi No yellow card yet Join Date: May 2005 Location: on a pole Posts: 1,212	Re: How to get out of a works' do? I used to not go to works things as I didn't want to socialize with people I spent the entire week with. But I've realised that work dos are really important so I think of it as part of work. We don't always want to go to work and there are aspects of work that we don't like, however we still have to turn up. The work do is a part of work, albeit an unpaid overtime part of work. If you don't like the food, just eat a sandwich beforehand so you don't starve and don't eat anything. Then when you go for drinks, just drink tapwater. You may enjoy it?